SummertimePosted: June 8, 2011 Filed under: breast cancer | Tags: Antibiotics, bilateral mastectomy, breast cancer, egg salad sandwich, hospital, Houston, Houston Museum District, infection, IV antibiotics, JP drains, kids, mastectomy, Methodist Hospital, mycobacterium, new boobs, nosocomial infection, plastic surgeon, plastic surgery, post-mastectomy, reconstruction, recovery, Sam Cooke, school's out for summer, survivor, tennis, Vera Bradley 10 Comments
Summertime, and the living is easy. Sam Cooke said it, well, sang it actually, a long time ago. The fish were jumpin’ and the cotton was high. The girl he was singing to had a daddy who was rich and a mama who was good-looking. All was right in Sam’s world.
Well, the living is easy all right. No alarms waking me up before I’m ready, no lunches to pack. Payton’s lunch is easy: sandwich, bag of baked chips, string cheese, Rice Krispie treat, and a drink. No lunch box, no ice pack — he’s too cool for that. Macy, on the other hand, is quite particular about her lunch, requiring 5 different things, some of which must be washed & chopped and placed into small tupperware. She does at least take the same thing every single day, much like her mama did as a schoolgirl. I had a homemade egg salad sandwich on wheat bread every day of my schoolgirl life, and didn’t care one lick that the other kids thought the egg salad looked gross and the brown bread looked weird. They could have their stick-to-the-roof-of-your-mouth Wonder bread PB&J any day. I was perfectly happy with my gross-looking egg salad on weird-looking bread.
So no lunches to pack, yea. No mountain of school paperwork to wade through, only to find that other than glancing at the grades at the top of the completed work, there’s not a single thing in that mountain that really matters. No racing the clock to get out of bed, gobble down breakfast, get dressed, and get out the door. No meanie mom enforcing a highly unpopular bedtime so the little darlings don’t act like feral hogs in the a.m. Last but not least, no school projects. Oh, how I despise the projects. After 18 years of living with the original slacker student, who did minimal work and gasp! even skipped school projects altogether yet made good grades and somehow managed to become a contributing & successful member of society, my opinion on school projects has definitely changed. Changed to hatred, that is. They’re messy, time-consuming, inane, and require ME to go to Hobby Lobby AND help with said project when I could be playing tennis.
Ok, rant is over.
I certainly hope I didn’t offend any teachers out there. If I did, please direct your hate mail to my husband, the original slacker student. It may take him a few days to reply, because he’s busy running a software company. I’m not sure he could have risen to such heights and attained 2 graduate degrees without that pivotal diorama he made in 3rd grade at Jenks Elementary.
Ok, now my rant is over.
So we are blessedly free of the strict schedule imposed by the Fort Bend Independent School District, and most thankfully free of the blasted school projects. We can go where we want to go when we want to go there, stay up late, and eat lunch when we please. All that sounds great, right?
Except for one tiny detail: I don’t do well with unstructured time. Remember me, the busy-body? I don’t blossom with a lot of downtime. It’s day 3 of summer, and I’m already feeling a little itchy, a little twitchy. As much as I dislike the hustle & bustle of the imposed school schedule, it does keep us on track. And I like that. I need that. I would have been great in the army.
Lots of people enjoy their downtime and get into being lazy. For me, laziness makes me feel icky. I really like having a to-do list every day and relish the feeling of being productive. Some people were laughing at me that on the first day of summer, I cleaned out the garage, did 4 loads of laundry, vacuumed the entire downstairs, and bagged up discarded clothes for donation. Before lunchtime.
Now that my kids are a little older and a bit more independent, summer isn’t as stressful because I can still get my stuff done without having to watch them every second. The ever-present possibility of a toddler finger in a light switch cramps my style and interferes with me crossing things off my to-do list. With the luxury of semi-independent children, I’m trying to relax more this summer. That, and the burning desire to suck every drop of summer this year, since last summer was such a bust.
Last summer, I was not only recovering from a bilateral mastectomy but also playing hostess with the mostess to a nasty, long-staying bacteria that exploded into a messy, hard-t0-diagnose-and-even-harder-to-eradicate infection. I spent some extra time in the hospital, multiple times and multiple hospitals, and had a few extra surgeries. I weathered the ups & downs of being an impatient patient, and learned the hard, hard lesson that no matter how nicely I treat my body, it can and will betray me. As my sweet mama would have said, “That is rude, crude, and socially unacceptable.”
Last summer I missed out on a lot, thanks to Mr. Mycobacterium. This summer is going to be different. I’m going to spend some idle time, and hopefully learn to like it. I’m going to float in the pool with my kids and my crazy dog, and not worry about the laundry piling up or the dishwasher needing to be emptied. I’m going to teach my kids to cook, and not stress over the messy kitchen. I’m going to drag them away from the TV and computer games and into the museum district, and not get discouraged when they complain about how boring it is.
This summer, I’m going to relish being home instead of in a hospital, staring at this:
I’m going to delight in the fact that I don’t have any of these attached to me:
I’m going to do a little dance about the fact that my sling bag isn’t carrying any of those icky things that are no longer attached to me:
and that I no longer need a collection of these to catch the collection of gunk that accumulates in those things to which I’m not longer tethered:
I’m going to breathe a sigh of relief that I don’t have any of these stuck to me:
I’m going to offer up a special nod to the fates that I won’t be going here:
However unstructured this summer is, it’s gonna be great. Summertime and the living is easy.
You would NOT have done well in the army. You’re regimented, yes, but I’d like to see the day you take orders from anyone.
Agreed David! Nancy tolerates fools poorly. She would have to be a general to be in the army. I witnessed Nancy working in a corporate bureaucracy and it got ugly at times.
She tolerates me pretty well most of the time.
Better still she should be Commander in Chief! Is it too late to form an exploratory committee for 2012? I like Obama, but I’d have to give Nancy serious consideration.
If you need structure to feel right try this for your daily schedule:
1. Get up
2. Drink coffee
3. Eat breakfast
4. Play tennis
5. Cool off in pool
6. Drink bubbly
thank you thank you, i was sitting here in a self depracating mode for the laziness of sleeping until 8:30 and then coffee on the porch watching for the UPS guy to arrive with my Tom’s sunglasses. I may be very poor in a few months when this lil sabbatical’s impact is felt, but i am loving it. You go girl, life as we have it always better than the alternative….
I shudder trying to imagine what the Tiger Mother would have done to me.
Enjoy that wonderful summertime feeling with pools, cooking, museums and whatever else tickles your fancy. I’m so glad you aren’t staring at any of those nasty things from last summer. I remember those days…those lazy, hazy, crazy days of summer, lazy because I couldn’t do much, hazy because of all the chemo-brain haze, and crazy because of all the doctor appointments, treatment, nausea, etc. Now it’s time for you to relax and savor all life has to offer! Have fun!
After what you went through last summer, you are way over due to the summer of your dreams. Make it up as you go along; don’t stress–maybe you can even learn to do nothing–ok, so that may not be on your list. Hope you enjoy every day of it.
Yay for summer! You deserve to have the most amazing summer possible! After your summer last year I think you deserve a little laziness without twitching eyes.